Sunday, May 2, 2010

Question and Answer

When your child has a "condition", especially idiopathic ones, you inevitably look inward for causes. You can't help it.

Did I eat the wrong things when I was pregnant? 

Too much fish? Not enough fish?

Did I breathe in too much second-hand smoke? 

Too much time in the sun? 

Did I sleep on my left side like I was supposed to? Or was it my right? 

Was something wrong at birth and I just didn't see it?

Should I have let you get that vaccine? 

Is our water no good? Is it poisoning you? 

Should I have fed you the barley cereal before the wheat one? 

Am I letting you sit too close to the T. V.?

In short, I keep asking myself: Did I do this to you

I have often wondered that. Did I break her? I've come to believe, after these few long years, that Abby's epilepsy is a symptom of something larger that's been damaged inside her. I also firmly believe that there are environmental and genetic components to her difficulties.

Recently, I've also began understanding the Autism as part of the same damage, something malfunctioning that is causing these symptoms to bubble to the surface. In my mind, they must be linked, as part of the same parcel.

I have often wondered, in these years, if my taking Celexa during my first trimester of pregnancy had any role. At the time, I was tapering off my dose slowly when I discovered I was pregnant, as I had been taking it earlier that same year to treat a depressive episode. My physician at the time agreed that I should continue tapering the drug, as there was no significant risks known for continuing the take the medication in my first trimester. At the time, it was also thought that Celexa raised the risk of birth defects and it was recommended that it should be stopped before the start of the third trimester. I was done with Celexa by my 12th week of pregnancy.

That thought, that me taking the Celexa during early pregnancy could have played a role in her "condition", has secretly haunted me. It's why I refused medication when I was pregnant with Rachael even though I was suffering panic attacks. It's also why I've refused to take medications for a chronic, low-level depression that has continued to plague me since her birth. Not only do these medications cross the blood-placental barrier, it infiltrates the plasma in the breastmilk.

No one could tell me whether or not I broke one child. No one could force me to break another.

I was reading something totally unrelated today, and I found myself today wondering if anyone else asked that same question about antidepressants. Did anyone else feel the same way? So I asked Dr. Google. 

Click here for an answer.

1 comment:

  1. Can there ever be a single cause? Probably not. Yeah you can trace things to vaccines and chemicals and medications and on and on and on. My opinion? It's a combo.

    We live in a chemical world and until we start, as a society, getting back to some basics this whole thing will continue, and more and more kids will have problems when they are born.

    I don't think you can say with any certainty something YOU took or YOU ate was THE cause, as much as we all blame ourselves in this, in the end there are multiple causes everywhere.

    Today I'm freaked about this oil spill and its ramifications on future generations. Tomorrow it might be something else.